Young Love and True Love

Love is a feeling of strong affection that occurs to every human or even animal. It is a personal attachment that is charaterized as a positive emotion or a virtue. Love can make one unselfish and loyal to the others. Love can also be described as a sexual attachment to the opposite of gender. In english, love can be desribed as several meanings based on the different feelings, attitudes, and states. Love may refers to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, sexual eros, the emotional closeness of familial love, and the platonic love that makes a friendship, or to the devotion of religious love. One of the popular love is that the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love. This is the most beautiful love that everyone ever feels. In loving someone, sometimes people get broken heart when the relation is over, however, some get it forever until the end of their lives. There is a difference from this love, for teenagers who have just known about love, they feel that love is the most beautiful thing that should be enjoyed while for the matures, love is not only about happiness but also a commitment for themselves. Those kinds of love are called as young love and true love.

Young love happens to the teenagers that have been in the age of puberty. For those who have just known about love, they feel that love is everything in life, the most beautiful feeling that happens only in the age of teen. When they are attached to the one whom they love, they feel shy and embarrassed whenever they meet each other. This thing always happens for most teenagers. They will think that love is the most precious thing during their lives. They act as they are mature like adults’ love but actually they are not. Sometimes this love can also make them blind, such as forgeting about school, agaist their parents and make any decision by themselves without thinking the effects as they are lost in feeling. They have not thought or realized what the purpose of loving is. This unsteady feeling sometimes makes them lose control. Many teenagers who are not under parents’ supervision are trapped in a lust that may kill themselves, because they just love someone only by his or her physique, such as the handsomeness and beauty. By loving the physique, it may makes them in a strong desire and try to have sex, however, it will be ok if there is no pregnancy but if it is the opposite, they will have another live. This kind of love will not stay longer, easy to disband, and easy to look for another one then forget each other, because adolescence is a time of uncertainty, the stage of looking for  identity and a period of the most severe (Hurlock, 1993). It means that mentally, they are not ready to live without parents’ dependency. For teenagers, love is like a game that finishes after the end of relationship, whereas there is a life after it. So in a teen age, love is just a temporary happiness during their ages.

On the contrary, true love mostly happens to the mature people that have really known about what love is. For the mature, love is not just a happiness but it is a commitment to love their partner forever. The mature thinks that love does not come by handsomeness and beauty but it comes by the abilities that they have, such as one’s talents, works , and jobs.  For the stable mature guys, loving somebody is a reflection of the future. It means that they attract to the opposite sex is not by love, but by thinking that whether he or she is well-established or not. In this case, sex is not the main priority but life will be more serious after they choose a partner to live together, because life does not finish to the marriage but it will become the real life after that. The need of life, jobs or careers, and family will be more important than love itself. The main priority is that they can provide all what they need in a domestic life, such as economic and educational needs. True love does not eat love but the way to live together with the partner and family they make. True love is judged as the real love in a real life.

It can be concluded that both loves can occur to humans’ lives. True love is more meaningful than young love. However, before people meet their true love, they may experiance young love first because young love mostly happens during the teenage while true love comes to the mature people.

source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love