Parents
are the ones whom we have known since we were born. They are keys of the family,
because their attitude will be imitated by the children in every case. At this
modern age, many parents have realized that their children’s characteristics
and attitudes are based on how their parents behave. However, some parents who are less educated, they have
not realized that anything what they do will not be imitated by the children
because they already enroll their children to the formal schools. it will be
absolutely true that the teachers in a formal school take a part to the
students. However, they are not very closer to them than their parents, because
the children spend much more time with their parents than the teachers. In this
case, the roles of parents are very needed to build the children’s
characteristics. These are several roles that parents should do to educate the
children such as, developing the moral value in daily life started at the early
age, controlling them whenever they do wrong steps or mistakes, and supporting
them whenever they do positive things.
The first is that the moral value
development is very needed for the children at the early age. This thing is the
base of children’s character building until they reach at adult age. If parents
have worked this out, the children will be directed. The main moral value is
that the rules of religion which is followed. That is the base of all deeds
that they do because it will lead them to the right way whenever they almost do
a wrong way. If it is planted well to the children, they will know and think
more before doing somthing mainly for the thing that can harm them after being
adult. For example, when they have a job which is honesty is the main of its priority,
but the insistence of economics which is less than enough may make them do a
wrong step such as embezzling money for a private need or it may be called as
corruption or anything else. However, if they have a strong faith based on
religion they hold, they may think that it is a digressing thing that may harm
them in the afterlife. Parents also give them something like input which
includes anything they can do or can not, like the words “if you respect others, you will be respect too by them.” Anak akan mengetahui bagaimana seharusnya menghormati
orang tua karena telah dibiasakan atau dididik oleh orang tua sejak kecil (Redi
dan Oktafiani, 2007, hlm 41). It means that children will know how to respect
the others if parents teach them during the childhood Redi and Oktafiani,
2007:41). That is a laudable thing that makes them able to survive in
the real society. To teach about this, it
is impossible for the children if they are given some speech, they will be
bored and not enthusiasm. Parents can teach them by a fun way. There are many
media that can support this thing, like watching cartoon which consists of
moral value, reading a story and so on. Then after reading or watching a
cartoon movie, parents tell them what lesson which can they gain from those. It
is more beneficial than listening to the speech or explanation. Those are enjoyable
ways that parents can do to lead or plant the children about the importance of moral
value at the early age and apply it in a daily life.
Then
the second is about controlling them whenever they do a wrong step. But here,
controlling is not by forcing. In this case, mostly it happens to the teenagers
who warmly want to do many things. Parents have to have more extra energy to
watch them because if they do one mistake, it can be fatal. Most teenagers do
anything they want without thinking about the effects. This is the role of
parents to lead them so that their warmth is directed. It is very needed that
parents should be closer to them due to they start to know new things in the
world. In this case, the relation between parents and children should be
opened, such as parents can act as their friends and share anything with them,
father may share a thought with his son and mother shares a thought with her
sister. It is better than when the children share the problems with their
friends who may do not know about it and not well-experianced due to they are
the same ages. It may danger them if they do it because not all friends are
certainly good. Making friends is good but it should be under parents’
supervision. However, parents are the best friends,
they can lead the children to the right way and give them some advise. But the
fact is that some parents do not care about the development of children’s age.
Whenever their children do a mistake, for example, at this age children
coriously want to know about sex, drugs, alchohol and so on. If parents lose
the control of watching them, they may suppose to ask about it with their
friends, whereas, their friends do not know exactly about it. It is possible
that they will try about what it is. And after parents know about what they
did, they just slap or hit them or ask for them to go away. It mostly happens
in the area that sex out of marriage is not allowed and also consuming achohol
and drugs. This is a big mistake that parents do and it is parents’ fault.
Parents should be open-minded with the children, although they do a mistake,
slapping or hitting them is not the way out to solve the problem. Moreover, it
does not give the time to turn back at the previous condition because it
happened and it has happened. Thus, parents should give them advise before they
do something and explain about the impacts. Parents’ affection is needed in
this matter because it is the way to control the them and so far no parents
give their children the wrong steps.
The
third is that parents should support the children whenever they do positive
things. Some parents sometimes have less attention with their children because
they work too much and busy with their own careers. It is very important to
support the children whenever they do a good thing, like getting rating in
their class then parents should praise them or even give them reward so that
they will be more motivated. Another good thing not only academic achievement
but also parents should let them to learn how to live in society like joining
any arganization or doing social service. Many parents are still reluctant to
let their children learn about it, because they think that this event only
distrubs their study. It is totally wrong that they still think like that. Based on Enda M. C Sosial adalah cara tentang bagaimana para individu
saling berhubungan. It means that social is a way how an individual interacts. This
event can lead the children live in a community which they have to adapt the
environment, they can learn about how to respect the others, how to understand
one’s feeling and so on. Moreover by doing so, the children will not be spoiled
and depend on their parents and also they learn about responsibility then how
to solve the problems and anything else. And also they can direct their desire
into a good way, it is so much better than studying at home all the time. That
is a very great thing that parents should let them do so. Parents also should
know that academic acheievement can not determine the children’s future because
socialization is more valuable than it. Thus, these are some good things that
parents should advocate the children to do so, the children will be more
independent and get more self-esteem in a positive way.
It
can be concluded that by educating the children during the childhood until
being adult such as planting them about the values in life, leading them to the
right way and teaching them about everything they have not known until they get
sucess, parents are the best teachers in life.
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