Happy Couple

Do you think it is difficult to make your relationship stay forever? How many times do you break up with your partner? And how long does your relation usually last? Many couples experience their bitter relationships because of lack knowledge and they just haven’t known yet about how to make their relationship stay forever. Actually it is not difficult to build a long life relationship if you know the steps. And here are the simple things to make your relationship go well.

1.      Building trust

Well, no trust no love. Do you trust your partner? If not, then why do you spend the relationship? It means that when you both trust each other, nothing is going to happen and you don’t need to worry about what your partner does when one of you is away. Just like when your man leaves for work and he walks with another woman whom you may not know. Your heart will not be burnt by jealousy because you know he never cheats and you trust him. And then when your friends or neighbors talk bad things about your partner just like he or she goes out with another one, or whatever, you will not care because you trust your partner that he or she never does anything that will break each other’s heart. So 3rd person is nothing. As a healthy couple, when you both give your trust to each other, you will never ever disappoint your partner and will keep it forever. You know he will not break the trust you give and neither will you, because you both have strong thing that will make your relationship stay forever.

                           

2.      Never hide anything to each other

Be open to your partner, that’s so important. Don’t hide anything though it is just a little thing like who sends sms to your phone and email your computer. Tell everything to your partner, tell what you just have experienced, tell what was going on to your work and so on. Make your partner as part of your life, make him or her as the first person that must know anything about you. When there is nothing to be a secret, you’ll feel like you both are one.

3.      Good communication

Be good at communication. When there is no communication, the relation will run short. Tell what’s on your mind to your partner, tell it on the right time, be nice and don’t be dominating. When you have a wish, you can discuss it with your partner what you want and what you  don’t. But here, it is emphasized that you must do it with goods words. Respect the partner’s idea and appreciate it, never ever say “NO” directly. Just like when she asks you, “hey, do you think it’s good if we have a car?” Then you said “NO. We have no money.” Sure, she will be disappointed! But you may replace your sentence with “Yes, I think so. We really need one, but I think we should save more money.” That’s better than the 1^st sentence. First, appreciate her idea of what she wants, support her, then give her your idea. And you must not insist what you want too, just like when you have an opinion and your partner must agree with it. Make a good decision and arrange your words properly, then solve it together.

4.      Open forgiveness

You must become a forgiving person to your partner. Whatever it is, he/she is your partner, part of your life, the one whom you love, and why you spend the relationship with him/her because you love your partner, don’t you? So why do you become angry when one of you makes a mistake? Just forget it and give a forgiveness. Start from some little things like when she forgets her promise, you must understand and give her forgiveness, when she gets late to the dating, you should forget her mistake and many more. And also, one thing you must know, DO NOT do anything that may make your partner become so angry and end the relation. So think it first before doing anything.

5.      Remember the good things than the bad ones

This one is very useful for your relationship. Do not ever remember your partner’s bad things and forget those all, keep thinking about your partner’s abilities and loyalties. When you think about your partner’s abilities, your relation will be stronger and seem there is no lacks. But when you always remember your partner’s disabilities, of course, you can say good bye to your relationship because it’ll end soon. Just like when you think that he is not good at swimming, but he can do aerobics, jogging and boxing. She is not good at sewing, but she dresses well, she is stylish and she always has perfect make up. Again, it is emphasized that you must look for your partner’s good things than bad ones, throw the bad ones and replace them with positive things your partner has. Or you can complete each other, you can replace your partner’s lack with your ability and do the same. It’ll be perfect.

6.      Accept each characteristics

You love him/her? Then you must accept what he/she is without attempting to change it. Humans have their own natures, and each nature is different from the other. Sometimes we want to make our partner to become the person that we dream and love. But there is nothing to do with that, it always ends with disappointment and the way what we do to the partner is not suitable with the reality. Just be yourself, no need to change anything, accept your partner the way he/she is. Actually, when we do not accept the partner’s characteristics, we fall in love with our dream only, our fantasy, our unreality, not the true beauty, not the real condition and the real love. So, avoid those useless things, just accept whatever he /she is. Your partner is unique, special, and no one like him/her.

7.      Intimacy

Many people consider that intimacy is sex. By having sex, we can share our feeling, joy and love and that’s the easiest way. But, intimacy here is not just sex, this can be more than it. Intimacy is the way we stay close with our partner. It is the way we share our happiness, sadness, affection, fear, hope, dream, by hugging each other, staying closer, and be one soul. By intimacy, relationship will be greater, stronger, longer and forever.

8.      Spending more time together

Don’t be too much busy with your own business. Spending time together is needed to build a good relationship. It is not just lying in the same bed and sleep together. But it tends to be more than this. Whenever you both have spare time, then go somewhere to a romantic place, have a vacation, rent a villa, watch sunset on the beach and spend your time together. Or you may go to the place where you met each other at the first time, have fun and revive the old memories, especially when you both met and fell in love, had first dating, and other sweet memories. That will be romantic, you’ll know how great relationship you have and spend.

9.      Life goals and commitment

A good couple never forgets the commitment and goals. Always discuss together about the dreams and then figure them out. When a couple wants their dreams become true, usually they support each other to achieve what they want just like when a woman giving her man support and warm him up and stay close to each other. Support is part of life goals, when a woman supports her man, it looks like a car with fuel. By fuel, a car can run but without it, it will not. Simple, a great couple never stops achieving their goals, attempting what they dream, giving support to each other for a better life.

10.  No blaming

Blaming is the most common case that causes the end of a relationship. As a smart couple, you must think that blaming doesn’t end the problem but it will make your relationship worse and may end with pain for you both. When you make a mistake, you must know what to do, confess it and ask forgiveness to your partner and promise you will not do it again. But when you both argue each other, just budge. No need to say who’s is wrong and who’s right. Simple, just give your heart and your partner will understand and apologize. Always ask forgiveness and confess when you do wrong thing to your partner, it’s so simple and easy.

11.  Problem solving, no revenge

When you and your partner have a problem, just tell. Don’t ever try to revenge because it will not solve the problem and may bring you to the end of relationship. Just like cheating, although it is painful for you, but you should have an idea how to solve it. You should know why your partner does so. Many couples do revenge when they are caught cheating, some revenge with cheating too, some record the affair on video and upload it on the internet and some end the relationship. When you face a problem like this, try to be calm, though it may be so difficult but don’t let your anger control you. You can talk to your partner calmly, softly with a cool head and ask why he/she does so. If your partner has any problem with you so don’t hesitate to ask what’s the matter. As long as your relationship can be solved and fixed then why not.